Why I Think I’m Struggling In The Dating Department

So I don’t think I shared this in January, but I set this goal for myself about how I wanted to go one 1 date a month. A little back story behind this is that I haven’t really dated someone in a really long time, and the last time I actually went on like a “first date” I was a freshman in college. Around the time of this past New Years, I was talking to a bunch of my friends about their dating lives and I thought to myself I should put myself out there, meet new people and see what I like. After all…I’ll never be younger and I feel like your twenties should be spent trying new things and figuring out what you like and don’t like. So I downloaded Bumble and Hinge and made some nice little profiles… and now, after only 5 weeks, I am ready to throw in the towel (for the time being).

So there are a few reasons why I think I’m struggling in the dating world at the moment.

It could be because I’m living at home with my parents… and that’s not a bad thing! But I do lack a lot of the independence I used to have when I was in college. And I understand this isn’t the best excuse because a bunch of my friends are stilling living at home and their dating lives are thriving and active. This has just crossed my mind once or twice that maybe things would be different if I lived in a different city on my own, and not in my hometown in my childhood bedroom.

It may also be that I work with at a small company with all women. Don’t get me wrong…I love my job and everyone I work with is so sweet and teaching me so much about our industry and life. I really look up to these women, but working here does not give me any opportunities to meet a guy at work.

One of the main reasons I think I’m dealing with this right now is because I really don’t like dating apps. I hate this is what dating has turned into. Every person I’ve dated before has started out as a friend that I got to know a little and could make me laugh. I feel like I can’t get those vibes from a random stranger based on a few pictures and answers. It seems kind of shallow to me. And then, even when I match with someone and start talking to them, I always forget to respond or the conversation dies or they’re just looking to hook up and I’m so over that.

I’m really hoping this blog post doesn’t just come across as a big ol’ rant and like I’m just trying to make excuses about why I am not going on the dates I said I was going to. But the underlying truth of all of this is, if I really wanted it, I would do it… but obviously I don’t, because I’m not.

The last thing I want is for this post to make me look bitter and alone, because the truth is I don’t feel that way at all. I am surrounded by so much love and support from my parents, my brothers, my co-workers and all of my friends. I am constantly busy and finding really valuable things to do with my time that I’m passionate about. But when I made that goal at the beginning of the year for myself to date more, I wanted to step out of my comfort zone and try something new. So at the moment I’m feeling a little discouraged, but I’m mainly feeling like if I was missing something in my life or really wanted to start dating, I would. But because I keep making excuses and finding other ways to fill my time, I must not want it right now.

So that’s how I’m feeling at the moment. And I want to emphasize that I’m not feeling so bad about my dating game that I want to pop every heart shaped balloon I see (despite the picture lol). I just know that this part of my life probably doesn’t include dating. But that’s okay, because at the moment, I don’t feel like it’s something I absolutely need in my life.

Thanks for reading! xx