Now that it’s February, you’ll probably find a ton of people with that love is in the air mindset. Well you won’t find that here on this blog. February is more of my month to get my sh*t together (especially with NFF) and to focus on self improvement. February is definitely not about red roses, heart-shaped chocolate boxes and romantic walks on the beach for me. But just because my dating life is non-existent for the time being, doesn’t mean I’m just going to sit at home and do nothing. I’ve been thinking about my goals for this year, and one thing I really want to work on is my confidence in being alone. So for the rest of the year, I am taking myself out on a date once a month.
There are a bunch of reasons I want to do this for 2020. Looking back, I used to be anxious and afraid to go out and do things by myself at the risk of someone seeing me and thinking “lol that girls so alone”. But what kind of sick 90’s Mean Girls thought process is that?! I think it’s such a strong component of self love to be confident and content with being alone, but especially out in public. I’m very extroverted and love being around people, but I want to also be more self-reliant when it comes to accomplishing things on my bucket list. I’m lucky I have a lot of local friends who are usually willing to do new and exciting things with me. But I know schedules are busy so I don’t want to lose opportunities just because I’m afraid to do something by myself. One of my best friend has become an absolute pro at traveling by herself and it’s something I really admire. So with all of that in mind, I’m making it a conscious goal to take myself out on at least 1 date every month for 2020.
In January, my self-date was a quiet morning at one of my favorite brunch places in Frederick called ‘Cafe Nola’. This was when I still didn’t have any of my social media apps and I was able to sit at the bar, order a coffee and this delicious sweet potato hash. It was a rainy morning and I was on my home from a friends and I think it was a good first self-date to get me warmed up to the idea. It was rather impromptu too.
For the rest of the year I’m going to aim to make each of these self-dates different. If I’m stressed, I’ll go to the spa for a facial or massage. If I have a lot of time to plan, then I’ll do a little weekend trip. I probably won’t do a solo brunch again, since it’s been done, but I would totally try out a new restaurant. I want these self-dates to be enjoyable but I also want to make each one unique. This is also a great chance for me to get sh*t done that I normally wouldn’t otherwise. I’m talking about cooking classes, dance classes, etc… I still have a long list of things to do on my 101 list.
Here are some ideas I was thinking for some self-dates this year:
- Take a cooking class
- Go to the movies
- Explore a museum I’ve never been to
- Spend an afternoon in a bookstore and coffeeshop
- Mani/pedi or massage to help relieve stress
- Go to a concert alone
- Try a new restaurant near me
- Weekend trip to a close town I’ve never been to
- Go to the farmers market and make a dinner with everything I buy
- Walk on the beach
(aww how romantic)
Dress // Shoes // Chair (similar)
For 2020, I really want to fall in love with my own company. I want to be more comfortable with being alone. And I want to accomplish a bunch of goals this year by myself.
Have I convinced you to take yourself out on a date this month? Comment below!
Thanks for reading! xx