So this is post for my girls out there who are recently going through a break-up or are just experiencing a sad heart. And you’re probably tempted to text your ex- or that person who isn’t your ex but pretty much feels like it- right now. But let me tell you! You don’t need to do that. And you really shouldn’t do that. You know why? Because you’re better off. And nothing you say in a desperate text is going to fix anything or the boy himself to make him worthy of trying again. Texting that boy right now will only make you feel disappointed with whatever he does or doesn’t send you make and take away all the progress you’ve worked towards recently to get over him. So if you’re reading this post and your feelings are hurt and heart is broken, I’m about to give you some tough love and somethings you can do to distract yourself so you don’t text your ex.
Alright girl, let’s get serious. If you clicked on this post, that probably means you’ve drafted out a whole message you want to send to some dumb boy who is no longer a dominant figure in your life right now for one reason or another. And that’s normal to want to talk to him! Personally I think one of the hardest parts of going through a break-up is breaking habits and routines where you used to always talk to someone. But that’s why I’m making this post! I mean this from the bottom of my heart: you don’t need to text him. You don’t need to DM him on Twitter or Instagram, or even send him a Snapchat. It won’t help. In fact, it will just make your getting-over-him process take longer and make you look desperate. Not to mention, YOU’RE BETTER THAN THAT. C’mon girl. In 2020 we’re not pining over dudes who don’t know what they have when they have it, or can’t get their sh*t together or simply don’t like you enough to respect you. No, no. We’re leaving all of that in 2019, we’re demanding what we deserve and we’re not going to let dumb boys control our emotions or happiness. Because they’re not worth it.
If you’re reading this I know you’re tempted. And that’s okay. Let’s focus on distracting ourselves with these fun activities:
- Go put your phone in a drawer and walk into another room
- Or better yet… just block him. Yep. block him on everything. Right now.
- Go to the gym because endorphins make you happy
- Go to the movies because you can’t be on your phone in there
- Have you blocked him yet? You should really do that.
- Take a walk and listen to some happy music.
- Sit in your room and cry just because you need to let it out, but do not text him.
- Oh yeah, no lurking either. You’ll just hurt your own feelings.
- Go get your nails done because you can’t be texting or scrolling when someone is painting your nails.
- Bake a cake because you get to eat it afterwards.
- Go do some retail therapy because you’re a bad b*tch who deserves nice things.
- Or go to real therapy because you know I’m a huge supporter of that.
- Did you block him yet? C’mon girl…
- Call a friend.
- Go hang out with a friend and just vent like crazy.
- Call your mom.
- Hug your mom if you can because that’s always nice.
- And if hugs are scarce, go find a dog to pet because that’s always good too.
- Call customer service in case no one else is around just to talk to someone.
- Write a letter and then burn it
because burn things is fun. - Read a book because that’s some really good escapism there.
- Clean your room because that’s productive and it helps you start fresh.
- Take a nap because you can and it’s like turning yourself off and on again.
So let’s get down to the point here: you’ve already come so far, let’s not ruin all of your progress just because of a cliche holiday. Honey, you’re better than this. You got this. You are better off without him and you deserve so much more than whatever he was giving you. I firmly believe everything happens for a reason. And you may not know that reason right now, but in a few days, weeks, months or years, you will and you’ll be thankful to have gone through this heartbreak and rollercoaster of emotions. You’re a lot stronger than you think you are and you need to give yourself more credit.
Now go block him, put your phone away, go distract and remember you’re a strong, independent woman who does not need this man. You can do this.
Sending you lots of love and support if you need it. xx